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Over 75% of mothers who report abuse lose custody when their abuser fights for it.Patterns win cases. Documentation wins patterns.16 years in family court. The tool I wish I'd had from day one.

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Help shape the tool you wish you’d had from day one.

10 spots. 6 months free. Applications close Wednesday, May 6.

Pattern18 Founding Members are not customers. They are the survivors helping shape what this product becomes for everyone who finds it after them. Honest feedback is the highest-value contribution. No required calls, no homework, async-first, on your schedule.

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Is this you?

The parent who screenshots everything.

You have 800 screenshots. You can't find the one you need when you need it. Your lawyer asked for a timeline. You have no idea where to start.

The parent whose stomach drops at every notification.

You know which messages are going to be bad before you even open them. You want to know if you're overreacting. You're not.

The parent walking into court.

You know the patterns are there. You just can't prove them. One Compass-style analysis becomes 40 Compass-style analyses becomes a case.

How Pattern18 works.

1

Paste any message.

Pattern18 reads the subtext. DARVO. Gaslighting. Guilt trips. Moving goalposts. It names exactly what's happening underneath the words.

2

Save it to your case.

Every analysis timestamps itself to your case file. Your timeline builds automatically while you live your life.

3

Export for your lawyer.

When you need to prove the pattern, Pattern18 gives you court-ready documentation your attorney can actually use.

Why Pattern18 exists.

16 years ago I had a baby with someone I didn't fully see yet.

By the time I saw it, I was already tied to him by court-ordered custody until our son turns 18.

I spent years confused. Years documenting in the wrong ways. Years losing time and money because I didn't have language for what was happening.

My son turns 18 in 2 years. I'll finally be free of court.

Before I go, I'm building the tool I needed from day one.

Pattern18 is for every parent who came after me. Every mom, dad, grandparent staring at a message asking, "is this as bad as I think it is?"

I built it so you don't have to wait 16 years to know.

A mother who spent 16 years in family court.

One price. Everything included.

$97/month. Cancel anytime. 7-day free trial.

PATTERN18
$97/month

What you get (as of today):

  • 24/7 AI coach. Unlimited message analysis.
    Worth $300+/mo at $10/analysis
  • Real-time pattern detection
    DARVO. Gaslighting. Coercive control. Named instantly.
  • Automatic case file and incident timeline
    Replaces $400/mo of manual documentation work.
  • BIFF response generator
    Pre-drafted strategic replies. Saves hours of emotional labor.
  • Court-ready documentation export
    Saves 4+ hours of lawyer billable at $300/hr = $1,200 per case.
  • Pattern timeline across months or years
    The evidence courts actually understand.
  • Healing module
    Grounding tools, affirmations, community support.
Total value:$2,000+/month
Your price:$97/month

Why so low? Because I waited 16 years for a tool like this.
I built it so no one else has to.

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The 7-Day Promise.

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If Pattern18 doesn't name exactly what you're experiencing in your first week, walk away and pay nothing.

You're not crazy. You're not overreacting. Let Pattern18 prove it.

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Questions?

How much does it cost?

Pattern18 is $97/month with a 7-day free trial. That's less than 20 minutes with most family law attorneys, for unlimited 24/7 access. Prefer to pay yearly? Pattern18 is $697/year, which saves you $467. You can cancel anytime. No contracts, no hidden fees.

Can I cancel anytime?

Yes. Cancel with one click, no questions asked. Your data stays yours.

Is my data secure?

Bank-level encryption. We never share your data. You can export or delete everything anytime.

Is this legal advice?

No. Pattern18 helps you document and organize evidence. We recommend working with an attorney for legal strategy.

What if I can't afford this right now?

A few options. Gift subscriptions are available — a friend, family member, or advocate can purchase an annual plan for someone they love. We're also building a sponsored access program funded by our family law firm partners. If you're working with an attorney, ask them about Pattern18 — when firms subscribe, their clients get free access. If none of those fit, email hello@pattern18.com.

Can I use Pattern18 like an app on my phone?

Yes. Pattern18 works as a Progressive Web App, which means you can save it to your phone's home screen and use it like any other app, with no App Store download needed. On iPhone, open pattern18.com in Safari, tap the share icon at the bottom, scroll down and tap "Add to Home Screen." On Android, open in Chrome and you'll see an install prompt automatically. Once installed, the app opens instantly and stays signed in, so when their next text comes through you can respond in seconds, not minutes.